What's Holding You Back?
Have you found yourself talking time and time again about how you wish things were different?
You don’t want to feel bloated anymore.
You want to go on vacation without the fear of feeling miserable the whole time from cramps and pain.
You want to buy an article of clothing that doesn’t come with a stretchy waistband!
It’s one thing to want those things, but it’s another to actively work towards making that your reality.
I tend to see three big aspects holding people back from doing the work and realizing their goals.
1/ Only focusing on the roadblocks
All your mental energy is going into thinking about how hard the journey is going to be. You become overwhelmed in determining the steps you need to take and your anxiety and internal resistance just continues to build.
You’ve forgotten what the end goal looks like. You’re focusing on the challenges and not on the opportunity you have. It’s time to reframe your mindset and stop getting bogged down by the details.
2/ A lack of accountability
For some, it can be extremely hard to hold yourself accountable for making personal changes. Stop beating yourself up for “a lack of willpower” and instead harness the potential of an accountability partner! Whether this is a friend, family member, colleague, or coach, (or even strangers on the internet!), sometimes you just need someone to report in to to keep you moving forward.
3/ An identity crisis
Sometimes the hardships we go through can become, consciously or no, a part of our identity. You might not be aware of it, but you could be “identifying” with your symptoms or disorder. The idea of suddenly becoming symptom-free may actually be causing you to question your identity, and this transition can cause a lot of anxiety. It’s only by releasing this identity that you’ll be able to ultimately move on.
Check out this week’s video below to dive deeper into these three roadblocks!